How Listening Can Do Wonders
Did you know that you have two ears and one mouth? Trust me, barring some tragedy that is what you come with. Why is this important? Well besides the scientific reasons we can use this two to one ratio for our relationships. For example, you should listen twice as much as you talk.
You might go through life and not realize you are not actually listening to anybody you are just waiting for your turn to talk. We are all guilty of this at some point in time. But when you are in a relationship you need to follow this rule. Listen twice as much as you talk. I do mean listen to, spend some time not worrying about what you are going to say and just sit down and pay attention. Men tend to have this problem more than women, but just because they do it more does not mean women do not do it at all.
If you have kids, or just friends you will find that your relationships can be stronger with them by listening to them. Do not dismiss what a person has to say because they feel it is important to tell you what it is that is on their mind. Even if it is gibberish if you spend the time to listen to them you will be more valued by them.
If you seem to be in a rocky relationship it could be because communication has broken down and the main reason for this was you were both two busy speaking twice as much as you were listening. You need to understand what they are saying and why and then respond with carefully chosen words and not whatever flies into your head first.
This two to one ration can work wonders for your relationships. Give twice as much love as you want to receive, hug twice as much as you normally want to, and of course pay attention twice as much as you want to. The more you give the more you will receive sooner than you think, so open up your ears and shut your mouth for a change. It might just do what you need it to for your relationship.